Hello all,
Wen here, invoking my inner Yoda.
Loving yourself...just as you were, just as you are, just as you will be...it’s one of the keys to lasting happiness.
And it can be damn hard sometimes.
We are constantly bombarded with messages from media and people in our lives about who we are supposed to be and how we are supposed to look and how we are supposed to act and on and on and on.
It’s insanity! And so often we buy right in.
But if you can shut out the screaming tantrum that is our modern world for just a moment, and remember who you and I, who we all really are, you could love others and yourself more. You would be less judgemental. You could be happier and more content.
Remember, you are pure source energy always connected to the ONENESS whether you feel it every moment or not. You are a divine, loving, light filled being having an experience in a physical body on earth.
Thich Nhat Hanh says, “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” We need to cut ourselves some slack!
How you ask?
My inner Yoda and I are so glad you asked.
In my humble opinion, I would advise us all to...
STOP frickin’ comparing ourselves to others, media, TV stars, your friends, STOP IT!!!
Treat yourself kindly through the use of specific positively worded affirmations.
I know, I know, some of you right now are like, OK Wen, easier said than done, and I won’t argue with you. That’s true. AND I would say, it’s not that hard either. Let me give you an example.
Let’s say you don’t like your legs. I have a dear friend who has hated on her legs her entire life. Instead of thinking and saying, “UGGGH my legs are fat and veiny and wrinkly and old.” Or “I have kankles...Gross. Who could love these legs??”
STOP
Time to reframe.
Let’s try…
“I am blessed with two functioning legs that I can use to walk, run, jump, and dance.” (Not everyone does you know, and they would LOVE to have your legs
no matter what they look like.)
-or-
“My legs are strong because I work out/exercise. These little babies take me everywhere I want to go. Thanks legs. I love you. Thanks for holding me up.”
Write your new affirmation down and tape it to your bathroom mirror or type it into your device’s calendar and have it alert you repeatedly, say every Monday FOREVER!! That’s what I do. Then when the alert pops up you read it. And the more you read it and think it, the more you’ll believe it.
Not only do these thoughts feel better, you are actually retraining your brain to hold a new belief. Changing your synaptic connections to strengthen patterns through repetition is aka learning. The brain can change. The brain’s ability to be rewired (at any age) is called neuroplasticity.
Neuroscience has proven that - old dogs CAN learn new tricks. ;)
And affirmations are one simple way to start.
So the steps are:
1. Stop with the comparisons!
2. Choose a specific area you want to change your thinking around.
3. Write an affirmation.
4. Read your affirmation often to rewire your brain.
Rinse and Repeat (J/K but you can do this over and over and over)
and now...A quick tutorial on “How to Write Affirmations”
*Think of something you really want to DO, BE or HAVE.
*Create a positively worded, concise, present tense sentence beginning with
I _______________________________.
*Including strong action words and feelings/emotions words will magnify the potency!
Check out this video where I explain these steps.
And if you need more help writing these, you can hire me as your Life Coach. :) Really...you can. Call me. (714) 468-5167
Wen’s inner Yoda signing off.
Until next time…
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